Supposedly, men are naturally polyamorous, while women are naturally monogamous. Ok, I can kinda understand why.
Historically, men have been seen as domineering in contrast to women. Women are seen as loving and faithful. (This is because any woman that is sleeping with more than one man is seen as a slut, while a man who sleeps with multiple women is seen as normal.)
This double standard makes a man who sleeps with multiple women a god. Since men have a free pass to sleep around, why not have multiple romantic relationships?
While us ladies, we can’t do that unless we want to be seen as a bunch of whores. We need to find that one man that lights our fire, and allow that man to set ablaze any and everything he wants.
I, obviously, don’t prescribe to these ideas. Yeah, I’m pretty monogamous… but I’m not going to be in a one-sided relationship where my partner is sleeping with a bunch of other women while I’m trying to decide how best to keep him happy.
Not only is that unhealthy for the woman in the relationship, it’s a total ego boost for the dude.
Any relationship that goes that way will probably not last. At least, it won’t be a very healthy relationship that one would want to last.
Polyamory works for some people. I’m not judging it at all; I can kinda understand it in a way. You’re dating a guy that you connect with physically, but mentally… no one is home. You sleep with that guy, and spend time with another guy that might have all the emotional/intellectual qualities, but not the sexual ones. I can see that, totally.
I just think as young people, we’re so ready to settle that something like that can be seen as something one had to do to get a bunch of positive qualities out of people.
What if you wait? Wait until a person that has all those qualities enters your life…
I don’t know, I think the whole idea is based on how lucky the person believes they are. The chances the person gives themselves to find that person that checks off all the boxes.
I’ll say, I’d rather be celibate than be polyamorous. Straight up!